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Key Thought:

We aren’t called to be best friends with everyone, but we are called to love them all.

Key Quote

“There is never a reason, no matter how triggered you are, to treat someone badly.” - Pastor Bil Cornelius

Start talking. Find a conversation starter for your group.
  • Looking back, what’s the funniest thing you’ve ever argued about?
  • Who do you argue with the most? Who usually wins?
  • What is it about traffic that triggers so many people?
  • What can you expect when you buy something “as-is”?

Start thinking. Ask a thoughtful question.
  • How can a struggle in one area of life cause a struggle in another area?
  • Read Romans 3:23. How can we apply this verse to our relationships with people?
  • How can saying nothing during a conflict actually demonstrate strength?
  • What can we learn about conflict management from the life of Jesus?

Start sharing. Choose questions that create openness.
  • Are you as passionate for those you dislike to go to Heaven as the people you like?
  • What’s an example in your life where you were triggered but you chose to react calmly and rationally? What lessons did you learn from how you handled it?
  • How has walking away affected the outcome of an argument differently that going off on someone?
  • How has God used difficult people in your life to make you more like Christ-like?

Start praying. Be bold, and pray with power.

Dear Jesus, thank you for leading us. No matter what came your way, you handled it through the lens of love. Help us to do the same. In your name we pray, Amen.

Start doing. Commit to a step and live it out this week.
  • If you recently said something that should not have been said, go to the person and calmly apologize. You’ll be amazed at how receptive they are to your apology!
  • Go around the room, one by one, and tell the group about something that triggers you. Then, collectively, find scriptures that speak to these triggers and commit to praying through these scriptures daily until the trigger no longer has power over you.
  • Have you had your own personal experience with God? If so, tell the group about it & thank the Lord for blessing you. If not, describe times of good fortune, or times you narrowly averted crisis and explore how God’s hand was all over those moments.
  • To continue taking as many people to Heaven as we can before we die, it’s necessary that the people who make up the church fund the cause. If you are not currently tithing, choose to begin honoring God with the first 10% of your finances today. Ask someone (or everyone) in the group to hold you accountable.


...husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel… 1 Peter 3:7a ESV considerately with your wives…honoring the woman as physically the weaker, but realizing that you are joint heirs of the grace of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. 1 Peter 3:7 AMP

For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard. Romans 3:23 NLT

Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling. Proverbs 20:3 NLT

[Moses] saw an Egyptian beating one of his fellow Hebrews…Moses killed the Egyptian and hid the body in the sand. The next day…he saw two Hebrew men fighting. “Why are you beating up your friend?” ...The man replied, “Who appointed you to be our prince and judge? Are you going to kill me as you killed that Egyptian yesterday?” ...Moses fled from Pharaoh and went to live in the land of Midian. Exodus 2:11-15 NLT

Then the Lord told him, “I have certainly seen the oppression of my people in Egypt. I have heard their cries of distress because of their harsh slave drivers. Yes, I am aware of their suffering. So I have come down to rescue them from the power of the Egyptians… Exodus 3:7-8 NLT

“You are the light of the world—like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden. No one lights a lamp and then puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father.” Matthew 5:14-16 NLT

Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the best part of everything you produce. Then he will fill your barns with grain, and your vats will overflow with good wine. Proverbs 3:9-10 NLT

“If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back. But if you are unsuccessful, take one or two others with you and go back again…If the person still refuses to listen, take your case to the church. Then if he or she won’t accept the church’s decision, treat that person as a pagan or a corrupt tax collector.” Matthew 18:15-17 NLT your enemies! Do good to those who hate you. Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you. ...Do to others as you would like them to do to you. Luke 6:27,31 NLT

This they said to test him, that they might have some charge to bring against him. Jesus bent down and wrote with his finger on the ground. John 8:6 ESV

The vexation of a fool is known at once, but the prudent ignores an insult. Proverbs 12:16 ESV

Anyone who belongs to God listens gladly to the words of God. But you don’t listen because you don’t belong to God.” John 8:47 NLT

Again they entered Jerusalem. As Jesus was walking through the Temple area, the leading priests, the teachers of religious law, and the elders came up to him. They demanded, “By what authority are you doing all these things? Who gave you the right to do them?” “I’ll tell you by what authority I do these things if you answer one question,” Jesus replied. “Did John’s authority to baptize come from heaven, or was it merely human? Answer me!” Mark 11:27-30 NLT

Don’t hang out with angry people; don’t keep company with hotheads. Bad temper is contagious—don’t get infected. Proverbs 22:24-25 MSG

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